Thank you for this honest sharing. I have a few thoughts.

It seems you have your entire identity wrapped up in whether a woman reciprocates your feelings or whether you have a sexual relationship. I'm not sure why, but when this happens, it tends to have the opposite effect. And it will ut unbearable pressure on your partner when you do have one. One person cannot be another person's entire happiness.

Also, relationships are not a formula. I think that is the biggest misunderstanding of an incel. I am doing all of the things on the list. But no one is liking me. If I do x, y, and z, shouldn't I be guaranteed something?

No. None of us are guaranteed something. And I say this as the person who sat home while literally all of her friends were going out. The person who has NEVER been conventionally attractive.

The underlying "threat" that your life isn't worth living unless a woman finally gives you what you need is actually very manipulative.

If someone wants to be with you, they will want to be with you because of THEIR response to you, not because you found a fool-proof formula. There is no fool-proof formula.

Be a valuable person because you want to be a valuable person. Not because you want it to be the formula for getting sex.